My mother sent me a survey the other day she needed to complete for a school project. The questions were interesting so I decided to share it to see what kind of responses I get. These kinds of discussions provide a tremendous amount of insight into our perceptions of each other and what we think is important. I hope you enjoy answering these as much as I did. Feel free to invite as many people as you would like to participate. I look forward to your answers!
1. Why do you think men and women have difficulty communicating with one another?
2. Where or how do you think the breakdown in communication occurs?
3. Is this an inborn trait or a learned trait? Please explain your response.
4. Does this problem exist at all ages? Please explain your response.
5. Do you think that this inability to clearly communicate will ever be resolved? Please explain.
6. What would be your solution to solving this problem?
Hopefully the questions don’t sound too much like an assignment. Remember to go with your first response, not what you think others would want you to say. Enjoy!
1. Because we come from very different points of view. Our priorities and drives are sourced differently.
2. When we forget we are different.
3. It is inborn, or at least developmentally natural. Chauvinism (male, female, racial, cultural) is normal, and families must work with children to grow past it. As we get older, it’s up to us to consciously do so.
4. I think there’s a point in our childhood when we have an ideal learning window, but there is so much to learn about relating, the process never really ends.
5. Yes. There are more tools than ever for consciously relating, and reaching out past differences. I love NVC!
6. It starts with me. Especially when I can be someone others feel safe to be honest with.
Hello Clint!
Wonderful, thought provoking questions!
I will right them down, and ask them at my next dinner party or get together!
Thank you for sharing,
Marilyn
I always enjoy when you post these,
1. Because of natural point of view differences. Men come from a place of logic and Women come from an emotional place. Neither is better or worse than the other, they are just different.
2. When people are unwilling to meet in the middle of the above mentioned.
3. I think it is somewhat inborn, but it can be worked to a point of being a real asset if both sides choose to use the positives of each others perspective.
4. I think so, but then again the earlier you learn the differences and how to use them to each ones advantage, the better.
5. Depends on the individuals involved and if they both are willing to work towards the solution and the greatness that is to be learned from one another.
6. By walking the above mentioned talk and by positively sharing what I have learned with others.