We must learn to define our own lives
by pursuing our joys and passions with people we love.
A tremendous amount of confusion happens when people look into their past experiences in order to initiate change in their lives today. They recognize destructive patterns and make the decision to further investigate why they operate the way they do. The primary problem with this is that people become so stuck in their pasts, they wind up being obsessed with self-discovery. As a result of this obsession, their patterns don’t actually improve, but worsen.
I am not a believer in wallowing in our past. The past merely provides a frame of reference. It gives an explanation as to how we form certain perceptions and opinions. The past alone cannot provide the appropriate motivation to change. Becoming obsessed with the past can create a situation in which a person actually reinforces the negative pattern. A person with this obsession can paralyze his or her ability to take positive action. It is in action that we change. The negative behavior must change in order to let go of a pattern.
Action is in the now.
- When you become aware of a repeating pattern of sabotage, become grateful! You are now empowered to change.
- Becoming cognizant of relentless thoughts of self gives you the opportunity to value service to others. Breaking the pattern of self-centeredness is actually very simple: Help someone else!
- In all likelihood, you are not the deplorable bane of the human race. You are probably a good person. Let go of the fatalistic inner-dialogue, someone looks up to you!
- Change what you do. Today. Right now. The sooner you act, the sooner you find relief!